tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3719166953467554528.post6382885599264797677..comments2024-02-06T04:06:10.089-06:00Comments on Dear Stevie...: You are my first.Kristinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05292279414919447049noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3719166953467554528.post-52748212748876381292011-09-26T08:40:35.862-05:002011-09-26T08:40:35.862-05:00I made the decision long before Zoey came along th...I made the decision long before Zoey came along that if people asked me if she was my first, I'd tell them the truth. I feel like if you ask me the question, you'd better be prepared for the answer. It's not fair to me or my boys to have to hide the truth because it might hurt someone else. Still, it's hard. I say, "she's the first I'm lucky enough to bring home from the hospital" and I actually rehearsed it in the mirror for about 15 mintues.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09619182092725646317noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3719166953467554528.post-85210460066450583992011-09-25T19:03:40.432-05:002011-09-25T19:03:40.432-05:00I also enjoyed the opportunity to tell Lily's ...I also enjoyed the opportunity to tell Lily's story during my second pregnancy. I handled things about the same sharing her story with those I worked with and such. So excited for you as you enter the second trimester!rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06480554666969330506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3719166953467554528.post-81354122445818772962011-09-25T14:53:18.580-05:002011-09-25T14:53:18.580-05:00I found your blog through Jessica. I'm so sor...I found your blog through Jessica. I'm so sorry for you loss of Stevie. ((hugz)) <br /><br />Congrats on your new little one!<br /><br />JamieJamiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06577680603923217492noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3719166953467554528.post-22892879401396778482011-09-24T23:07:32.863-05:002011-09-24T23:07:32.863-05:00Hi, i'm from the August 2010 board. I started ...Hi, i'm from the August 2010 board. I started following your blog from the very beginning and i started slacking after a while. Anways, i saw your pregnancy pic on the DT just a few minutes ago, and i got soo excited!I am soo happy for you, and i cannot wait to tell my mom. I can remember being pregnant, and i was taking my dog on a walk while i was talking on the phone to my mom about what happened to Stevie, and i was just so so sad for you. My mom had the same thing happen to her twice (she wasn't as far a long as you were,she was about 12 weeks with both m/c's) But my mom found out that she had blod clots, which were causing her to m/c. Once the dr's figured out everything out, she got pregnant for the 3rd time, and had to inject the blood thinners twice a day. Now i have a happy and healthy 9 year old sister. <br />But i am just so stoaked for you. You and your husband are going to be amazing parents, and i wish you both the best! I can't wait to see pictures of baby E :) <br />Do you have a FB page?Tiffaninoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3719166953467554528.post-1649243577419049672011-09-24T12:28:37.460-05:002011-09-24T12:28:37.460-05:00<3 I wish there never was those questions for a...<3 I wish there never was those questions for any of us. I have 4 children on earth & 3 in Heaven and I still have those questions. <br />{{{Hugs}}}<br />Beautiful postCarolinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14698815527301107339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3719166953467554528.post-33982044121254454262011-09-24T11:07:23.591-05:002011-09-24T11:07:23.591-05:00Although I've gotten quite used to answering t...Although I've gotten quite used to answering this question, it still bothers me when people ask. Even with strangers I've begun saying it's my second and when the inevitable follow up questions come, I just say I have a son who's one. Unless it's someone I know, then I go into details. xoAngiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09787279517741148607noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3719166953467554528.post-82575617912049344312011-09-23T17:08:38.009-05:002011-09-23T17:08:38.009-05:00Ah, the dreaded question. My heart goes out to you...Ah, the dreaded question. My heart goes out to you. Like everyone else has said, I love this post too. I have an daughter who is 3 and I get the, "is she your only child?" question. We sometimes have to protect our angels from the awkwardness that people feel towards their story. Stevie will never be forgotten about. Sending you ((hugs)).Stefaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15921513006762299505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3719166953467554528.post-28088345657575287722011-09-23T17:05:22.300-05:002011-09-23T17:05:22.300-05:00the questions are so so hard. ((hugs))the questions are so so hard. ((hugs))Tiffanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17906643480459302192noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3719166953467554528.post-24617265912710735732011-09-23T15:21:43.082-05:002011-09-23T15:21:43.082-05:00Love this post. to pieces. Yes a million times ove...Love this post. to pieces. Yes a million times over, wish we could all say that. It is so so complicated, but you are handling all the difficulty and awkwardness with a lot of grace. Hope your sick days are becoming further and further apart. xxxxFranchescahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08362049658761399255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3719166953467554528.post-91881087675399433542011-09-23T14:43:41.712-05:002011-09-23T14:43:41.712-05:00Always such an awful, awkward question. It must be...Always such an awful, awkward question. It must be very difficult when people just assume that E is your first. <br />As you say, it is worse when people who KNOW that this isn't your first pregnancy treat you as though it is. I found the same, that people didn't 'count' my pregnancy with the twins, even though one of them survived. Nobody wanted to hear about my experiences of pregnancy or birth and treated my subsequent pregnancy as though it were my first. It can be frustrating and painful.<br />Wish you had your first beautiful daughter at home with you xoCatherine Whttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01618295389400457254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3719166953467554528.post-39530301187467385132011-09-23T10:24:47.136-05:002011-09-23T10:24:47.136-05:00There are many questions, concerns, anxieties that...There are many questions, concerns, anxieties that accompany a subsequent pregnancy. Have you considered attending A PREGNANCY AFTER A LOSS Support Group? There is one at United Hospital in St. Paul. It would be worth checking it out.Rosalynnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3719166953467554528.post-79245392346266695072011-09-23T10:04:44.449-05:002011-09-23T10:04:44.449-05:00Thanks for writing this post. This has been one of...Thanks for writing this post. This has been one of the most difficult parts of this pregnancy. And like you, by far the hardest situations are those in which people just assume that this one is our first. We just moved to a new neighborhood, and since our neighbors don't see any little ones running around, they naturally assume. I can't fault them for it, but it sucks all the same. However, the worst moment was when the nurse at my OB's office (whom I had told about Lewy 3 times already!) referred to this baby as our first. Argh.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3719166953467554528.post-53749983209177934902011-09-23T09:56:48.880-05:002011-09-23T09:56:48.880-05:00Wondeful post. I have struggled with the "do...Wondeful post. I have struggled with the "do you have kids?" question so many times and hated lying and saying no. I wondered what it will be like when I am (hopefully) pregnant again. I will refer back to this post and know I am not alone.Samantha Koellhofferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06512061391746399135noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3719166953467554528.post-89662000525617351682011-09-23T08:45:38.403-05:002011-09-23T08:45:38.403-05:00I don't like the people that knew I was pregna...I don't like the people that knew I was pregnant, that knew I had two babies, and that go out of their way to avoid talking about babies around me. I guess in their mind they are trying to do something nice, but it's so disheartening to hear the conversation completely stop, or to be completely cut out of a conversation. <br /><br />Hope you're feeling better soon.Nika M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/15716308480356654189noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3719166953467554528.post-61335433411821583062011-09-22T23:50:42.135-05:002011-09-22T23:50:42.135-05:00I get that a lot too. Depending on who the person ...I get that a lot too. Depending on who the person is (or how inquisitive they are) I usually say something like "I have two, one of each already but they're waiting for us up in Heaven." Or "yes I have two but neither of them survived." You see the person's face shatter and sometimes I feel bad but sometimes I feel happy. I've made this person aware that not everyone comes home with their babies from the hospital.Ausmerican Housewife - Creating with Kara Davieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16075297679140718497noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3719166953467554528.post-60968029440677967722011-09-22T22:18:22.683-05:002011-09-22T22:18:22.683-05:00I so wish you could respond about your 15 month ol...I so wish you could respond about your 15 month old little girl at home, too. :) You are handling things beautifully!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17014066994881587109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3719166953467554528.post-60922595168341947142011-09-22T21:43:06.070-05:002011-09-22T21:43:06.070-05:00I hated that question. I found a way to answer it ...I hated that question. I found a way to answer it too, that doesn't mean that it's easy. I take pride in saying I have two sons, even though one of them isn't here. I am still his mother, I think people forget that. <br /><br />Sending you lots of love, and hope you are feeling better. We will always remember Stevie!Deannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06299163482958386559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3719166953467554528.post-87890098219319354422011-09-22T19:22:30.004-05:002011-09-22T19:22:30.004-05:00Love <3Love <3Aprilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16130818531506121807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3719166953467554528.post-52380876936594625862011-09-22T17:11:37.853-05:002011-09-22T17:11:37.853-05:00What an inspiring post - this has made me want to ...What an inspiring post - this has made me want to blog (I have been laying down sick all day) - I deal with these people all the time too. Most people I am around know and like you said the ones who ignore the loss of my children is the worst! (((hugs))) I will never forget Stevie! <3Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15550346625004276669noreply@blogger.com